Are mail order brides real? This is a question I've begun to ask myself. There are a number of questions that need to be addressed:
- Can you buy a Russian bride?
- Are the women on mail order bride sites real?
- Are the women on these sites really interested in becoming mail order brides?
Onto the first question - can you buy a Russian bride? Of course the answer to this is no - women aren't for sale unless you use a people trafficker. And if you're a Western man seeking a Russian, Asian or Latin mail order bride then you'll be highly unlikely to make use of one of these shady networks.
So you can't really buy a Russian bride. However, you might consider using the services of a marriage agency. If you use one of these then of course they'll charge for their services. But this is nothing out of the ordinary - there are thousands of matchmakers and introduction agencies in the USA and they'll charge you for meeting their members.
It's also worth pointing out that you can't just order a bride online and wait for her to arrive at your local airport. Immigration authorities are very strict about foreign brides now. You'll be unlikely to get a green card or residency visa for a women you've never even met.
As to the second question - are women on mail order brides sites real? Oh this is a more murky question to answer. I'm sorry to say that many of the Russian mail order bride sites are very questionable. Often they'll lure you in with sexy models on the home page. While these ladies might actually appear in the personals listings, don't think you ever have a chance of dating them!
What is equally disturbing is the plenty of fake profiles on dating sites. These are most common on so called letter writing sites. These sites are free to join but you have to pay to send or sometimes to receive a letter from a Russian woman. The problem is that this business model is fatally flawed from the man's point of view. If a website invents fake profiles then it makes more money, simple as that.
Now I'm not going to libel any particular sites but do some reading on romance forums and you'll see plenty of convincing evidence that there are suspicious goings on with pretty much all of the letter writing sites. My advice to you would be to use letter writing sites if you want (they do after all make it easy to write to women who don't speak or write much English). But don't send more than 5 letters to a lady without seeing her on webcam. If she turns down your request for a webcam session then I'm sorry but she might not be real.
And by the way, don't take IMBRA laws as an excuse for not getting a lady's contact details. Another wheeze the sites use is to make you think that internet access is difficult and expensive in Russia and countries such as the Ukraine. These sites generally play on the average American man's perceptions as the rest of the world being technologically backward. Well I have news for you - I've been to the USA and China and I have to say that Internet infrastructure in China seemed much more modern than in the USA. I also know dozens of Filipinas who are on Facebook. Pretty much the whole world is wired up these days, and it's very easy to find Russian ladies who have internet access at home or in work.